You should go now. I'll go in myself.
Words will do. Talk about it and don't lose your temper.
Will that work?
Even if...
...you throw a tantrum, the problem can't be solved.
You don't get it.
Only when the world is in chaos, can great order be achieved.
She's home.
So what if she's home? What are you nervous about?
I'm not nervous at all.
You're not?
I am a little nervous indeed.
My heart is pounding fast.
Take a look at yourself. Are you really An Jie?
Who else would I be if I'm not An Jie?
You should just be called An Coward.
If you are brave enough, you go and talk to her later.
Why should I go and talk to her? I think none of us should go.
Let’s just ignore her and leave her alone for the moment.
Oh my God! I think she’s coming upstairs.
Look at you. You’ve really become a coward.
PEOPLE'S DAILY
What? Why are you staring at me like that?
Were we enemies in our past lives? Or did I offend you in my past life?
What do you mean?
You know what I mean.
I don't.
Why must you find fault with me?
Why are you being so hard on me?
You dislike anything that I like and you always disagree with me.
You just want to make trouble with me and break us up.
I don’t understand what your intention is.
I don’t want to do this, but you...
you should stop making us worry too.
Look at yourself. Look at the men that you selected.
Are they qualified and presentable?
One of them is a chef and the other is a divorced man.
Which one of them looks presentable? Does any one of them deserve you?
So what if he's divorced? You married a divorced man too.
So why can't I?
You and I are different.
Times have changed. It's incomparable.
Nothing is different.
Times changed but what matters remains the same.
That means a grown-up man or woman ought to marry.
While you were still young and pretty, you married a boor like Dad.
I’m just a 30 something old spinster, so why can’t I marry a divorced man?
I was forced to do so because of my background, and you?
At least I'm better than you. I am doing it for love. What about you?
Are you deaf? Why didn't you say a word?
What do you want me to say?
Didn't you say you'll deal with her and I should stay out of it?
Why aren't you doing anything at all?
She wasn’t looking for trouble with me.
She didn’t call me an enemy in her previous life.
Why should I take side with you?
Besides,
I can’t even manage my own matters. Why’d I mess with someone else’s business?
What makes you say that? What can’t you manage?
Let me ask you something.
Were you forced to marry me, then?
Jiang.
Deputy Wang wants to speak with you.
Tell him I'm not home.
Sorry. I just told him you’re home.
Gosh! Nothing seems to go right with me.
Partner, we need to talk.
About what?
Let's meet up and talk.
Where?
There’s a newly opened tea house across the street.
Let's meet up over there and we'll talk about it.
Of course, I’ll be going.
Talk? Not only talk,
I’m not even afraid if I need to fight.
-Who are you going to fight with? -Why do you bother?
I am going to fight with anyone who wants to fight me.
Go ahead. Come back only if you are bumped and bruised.
Are you seriously hoping that I’d be bumped and bruised?
Are you done talking?
I’m never done talking with you.
The older you get, the more narrow-minded you are.
People normally are more broad-minded as they grow older.
You become narrow-minded instead.
What is wrong with the door?
Move aside.
Go ahead.
Someone who can’t even open the door is going to fight huh?
Sir, are you here alone?
There’s another guy coming.
Over here.
You came quite quickly.
What would you like to drink?
I’ll drink whatever's expensive.
-One pot of Xihu Longjing tea. -Sure, please wait a moment.
Wait.
-What is the most expensive tea here? -Our Da Hong Pao oolong tea.
-How expensive? -It's about 380 Yuan per pot.
We’ll have one pot of that expensive Da Hong Pao.
Why are you frowning?
No--
Is this a slaughterhouse to slaughter people?
What kind of tea would cost 380 per pot?
You wanted to come here. Don’t ask me.
Did I tell you to order such an expensive tea?
Didn’t you say you’ll drink whatever is expensive?
I didn't say that. You said that.
You agreed to it.
Fine. Forget about that.
Let’s get down to business.
What is it? Go ahead.
Why do you despise my son?
Is my son not good enough for your daughter?
I despise him?
I don’t like your son because of you.
Me?
What are you talking about?
You were always nagging about how your son disappoints you in the past.
When did I nag to you about how my son disappoints me?
See... you just won’t admit it.
You said your son kept his hair long and often wears bell-bottomed pants.
He is just idle and does no decent work.
When was all that?
I have long forgotten about it.
You have forgotten but I remember well.
Is that all?
-There's more. -What else?
Your son was married once. He even has a kid.
Anything else?
Is that not enough? What else do you expect?
-What... what tea is this? -Da Hong Pao.
Da Hong Pao? It tastes horrible.
Boiled tea leaves would taste better than this.
Try it if you don’t believe me.
Wang.
I think we should just forget about it.
You are well aware that...
...my daughter has very bad temper.
She's not suitable to be a stepmother.
If she happens to bully your grandchild, will you be okay with that?
Until then, it’d look really bad if you guys fight about it.
Plus, you guys are no match for her.
You know how bad-tempered she is since she was a kid, don’t you?
Besides,
if you guys got into a hot dispute, a heated argument,
you’d definitely get us involved as well.
By then, we might end up turning against each other. How unworthy!
Sir, will you be paying for the tea?
Damn! This is a rip-off!
Hello.
My old woman, it’s me.
-It’s you. -Come to the tea house with 400 Yuan.
What?
400 Yuan? Why do I need to bring that money?
Just hurry up.
Did you really injure him?
I am injured by him.
Ding, come here quickly.
I’ll treat you to tea. It’s Da Hong Pao that costs 380 Yuan per pot.
Aunt, have you eaten yet?
Yes.
Where did you eat?
I ate at Grandpa Wang’s place.
Why do you often eat at their place?
I’m going to eat at their place every day in the future.
Give this to Grandpa and Grandma.
Grandpa, Grandma! Aunt gave this to you.
Let me see.
What are you doing? Calm down.
I’m asking you, what is this?
Why? Is it not clearly written on there?
I'm asking you, who agreed to this marriage?
I am asking you, who agreed to this marriage?
The people's government.
We have a marriage certificate issued by the government
Where is it? Show it to me.
I'll show it to you later.
Stop dawdling and hurry up!
What is the hurry? It’s not like I won’t show it to you.
All right, stop looking at it. It’s nothing spectacular.
-Mom -Are you okay?
Let go!
Come on.
-An arm can never win against a thigh. -Who’s the arm? Who’s the thigh?
Normally, parents are the thigh.
But we couldn’t win against her, could we?
You spoiled her rotten. She’s outrageous and shows no respect at all.
Why are you putting the blame on me again?
You’re no match for her, so, you come against me?
If I knew this would happen, I’d never keep her by our side.
It’s useless to complain now.
Just go to sleep. Come on.
Can you sleep?
The problem can’t be solved even though I don’t sleep.
I’ll just try to sleep.
Where are you going?
The bathroom.
Why? I can’t go? You won’t let me go?
Okay, just go.
What a heartless man!
You seem to be in a good mood.
-What do you mean? -Didn’t you get the invitation card?
Did you get it?
-We got it. We were surprised by it. -You were surprised by it.
I wasn’t surprised at all.
It’s within my expectation.
What makes you say so?
When you invited me over for that expensive Da Hong Pao.
He refused to pay for the tea, so he was ready to go against you anyway.
How is her Mom?
She’s having a toothache in there.
-She must be mad about it. -Go and ask her.
I heard that you’re having a toothache.
Goodness! Your face is swollen.
You must be pretty upset.
I’m upset and couldn’t sleep all night.
She’s being too ridiculous in this matter.
How could she not discuss the marriage with her own parents?
She just decided on her own.
Didn't you know about it beforehand?
We weren’t told about it. How’d we know?
The guy’s parents are even more outrageous.
Their son knows nothing but how could the adults be so ignorant too?
Isn’t that Ge Meixia your friend?
Friend? Bullshit!
Say...
We haven’t prepared anything for her.
What do you want to prepare?
Her dowry, of course.
Prepare a dowry for her? I will give her nothing at all.
Who do you mean?
Yafei, of course.
We’re talking about her dowry.
This is great.
We can save money instead.
Who’d want to save that kind of money?
Our family is willing to and his family is willing to.
Don’t vent your spite upon me.
Shouldn’t we talk about participating in her wedding?
Talk? What is there to talk about?
Calm down. We need to talk things out.
It’s written clearly on the invitation that we need to dress up to attend.
What does that even mean?
It means we should dress up to attend their wedding banquet.
Who’d want to go? They’re out of their mind.
You need to eat and drink during the banquet, no matter what.
It is Yafei’s wedding banquet after all.
Besides, you’ve raised her well.
It will be your loss if you can’t even enjoy her wedding banquet.
You guys can go ahead. I am not attending anyway.
I’m not going to, even if you kill me.
Stop being so stubborn!
Do I look like I’m just being stubborn?
We need to dress up to attend, but we don’t have any nice clothes.
It’d be great enough if we just go. Why bother about our clothes?
Grandma, will Aunt be wearing a wedding dress?
Who knows!
I wonder how many guests they have invited.
A banquet at such a luxurious restaurant must have cost them a lot.
It is worth it no matter how much they spent. Right, partner?
Yeah, we should eat as much as we want.
Dad, Mom, we’re here. It’s here.
-Over here. -Dad, Mom, they are here.
You are here.
-Only one table? -You guys are here.
-Only one table? How stingy! -Please come in.
Mom.
Your daughter is greeting you.
I am not deaf.
I am being courteous enough already.
Thank you.
Dad.
Are you trying to make trouble too?
You greeted your mom but not me. How dare you say I’m making trouble!
It’s my fault. I won’t do it again, okay?
I’ll forgive you for today’s sake.
-All right, come in and heave a seat. -In-laws, please come in.
Come. Please come in.
In-laws, what do you think? Shall we begin now?
It’s up to you. You can start any time you like.
All right. Come. Please take a seat.
Please take a seat.
Grandma, I want to sit next to Taiping.
-All right. -Sit next to little brother.
All right, shall we begin now?
Why? You’re hosting the event yourself?
It’s a new trend anyway.
This is indeed something new.
Okay, let’s begin. I’m hungry.
Today is a happy day.
The kids are calling this a new trend.
They wanted neither a banquet, nor a grand wedding ceremony,
and suggested that all of us just have a dinner together.
I agreed with them.
Now, please raise your glass. A toast to the happiness of our children.
-Let’s drink. -Cheers.
-Let’s drink. -Congratulations.
-Ding. -Cheers!
Good.
Dad, Mom, Aunt and Uncle.
First of all, I’d like to thank all of you for coming,
especially Dad and Mom
for allowing their amazing daughter, Yafei, to marry me.
Thank you, Dad. Thank you, Mom. Cheers.
Good.
Are you not going to drink that? You should drink it already.
You should just finish it.
Great.
Say...
My dearest Mom and Dad, Aunt and Uncle,
please raise your glass.
Aren’t you going to raise your glass? Aren’t you her mother?
Am I her mother?
If you’re not her mother, whose mother are you then?
She...
...is my most beloved mother.
Mom, come.
Just hold it for a while.
On this special day, thousands of words,
thousands of words welled up in this glass of wine.
Cheers.
-I’ll drink this with you. -Great.
Aunt, drink slowly.
-I’m fine. -Drink slowly.
Stop patting me. Otherwise, someone will be jealous.
No one is allowed to be jealous.
Aunt, I want to drink this with you alone.
Pour up.
Aunt, I’d like to drink this with you.
Thank you to your graciousness and for raising me up.
Don’t say that. Your Mom wouldn’t like to hear that.
My Mom wouldn’t mind hearing it, am I right?
Aunt, thank you for taking care of me.
Mom, don’t you want to drink with us?
Sit down.
Aunt, drink slowly.
I’ll drink up too.
Good for you. You get better treatment than I do.
You can’t drink a glass only. You need to drink two glasses.
My dear in-law.
Shouldn’t we drink a glass too?
Sure, let’s have a glass.
Gosh! How did we actually become in-laws?
It’s thanks to our kids, of course.
Yeah, life is a dream.
What are both of you blabbering about in this bright daylight?
Bring me along.
Miss Ge, our Yafei is quick in temper. Please be patient with her.
Dehwa, I watched Yafei grow up.
She’s closer than my own daughter.
Don’t you worry about it.
That’s right. I shouldn’t worry about it.
Meixia.
To be honest,
Yafei is a straightforward person. Please excuse any mistakes there may be.
Listen what you’re saying.
Will you only be happy by making me cry along with you?
Listen to what you’re saying. You--
We are now family, aren’t we?
Don’t sound like a stranger, okay? I don’t want to hear that.
I see her as my own daughter. I’m closer to her than you.
In-law, let’s have another glass.
Wang, drink with me.
-Come. Let me join you. Cheers. -Together. Come on.
Let’s drink together.
This is awesome.
-Come. -Come on.
DAYS PASSED QUICKLY AND IT IS ALREADY THE 21ST CENTURY
Mom.
You went shopping? What did you buy?
You are now a married woman. Why do you care what we bought?
All right, I’m not going to bother.
Goodbye. Bye bye.
Goodbye.
Don’t look. It’s useless to look.
Why bother about raising a daughter?
A married daughter is like spilt water.
Don’t feel bad about it.
Take it as the Water-splashing Festival. We splash water to have fun.
I didn’t expect you’d become more humorous as your grow older.
What can I do other than being humorous?
Don’t worry too much.
Weimin will be coming home soon.
Don’t mention about them. Speaking about them annoys me.
What can you do even if it annoys you?
Are you going to stop them from coming home?
Those who I like wouldn’t stay,
those who annoys me wouldn’t go away.
What do you call that?
That’s life.
Life makes you happy and it also makes you worry.
Forget it. Since when have you become a philosopher?
Is that philosophy? I have no idea about it.
Why haven’t they woken up yet?
Shouldn’t you ask them instead of me?
Why did you snort?
I’m annoyed.
You’re annoyed?
I am more annoyed than you.
Grandma, I can’t find my correction fluid.
Look carefully. Don’t call your grandma for nothing.
Is your grandma supposed to watch the correction fluid for you?
Okay.
Yaya.
Go and wake your parents up.
Wake up!
Wake up. They are calling for us.
Why don’t you wake up instead?
Why do you get me involved?
You are the daughter-in-law of this family.
So what if I’m the daughter-in-law? Do I have to work like a maid or slave?
No one is telling you to work like a maid.
But you should at least have a sense of decency and virtue.
I’m telling you, don’t make my parents dislike you.
I am telling you.
If I work hard like a maid for your family,
your parents will despise me more.
They’d be thinking I’m doing it because you are out of my reach.
You are being sensitive.
You are the sensitive one.
You are full of sourness.
Are you not going to wake up? Are you not going to eat?
I’m not hungry. I’m going back to sleep.
That’ll save a meal for your family. I’ll eat in the afternoon.
Just leave all this work to Weimin’s wife.
Look at what she’s doing now?
She isn’t awake yet at this hour. Do you think she’ll do this for you?
How did Weimin end up with a wife like her? She’s too lazy!
Birds of a feather flock together.
Someone like him could only get a wife like her.
You are awake?
The sun isn’t riding high yet.
Didn’t you send Yaya to wake us up?
Are you saying you won’t wake up if we don’t wake you?
Where’s your wife? Is she awake?
She’s having a headache.
Which day does she not have a headache?
For more than half a month you’re home,
she only woke up for breakfast on the first day.
I’ve never seen her waking up early after that.
I didn’t wake up early too.
Aren’t you embarrassed to say that?
You don’t sleep at night and you don’t wake up in the morning.
What kind of a lifestyle is this?
Were you both like this at your own place?
Yeah, that’s how we were.
No wonder you were laid off.
If I was your boss, I’d send you off too.
We weren’t like this before we were laid off.
That’s hard to tell.
I can guess how you were by seeing how you behaved in the past two weeks.
I’m telling you. At this home, we don’t keep lazy fellows and idlers.
You can’t go on like this. You have to find a way.
Get yourself a job.
Do you think we are not worried? We are more worried than you.
We don’t have qualifications or skills. What do you want us to do?
Do you want us to go and steal? Or rob?
You think we refused to wake up because we are lazy?
We are just too worried.
We couldn’t sleep at night and dare not wake up in the morning, you know.
What’s wrong with him? He’s such a rascal now.
We can’t blame him.
Who should we blame?
Me? You?
The society?
We shouldn’t have sent him back to the countryside in the first place.
Forget that. It’s useless to say that now.
What does it have to do with the countryside?
It is related though.
If he didn’t go to the countryside, he wouldn’t stay there and work.
He also wouldn’t get married and raise a family there.
If he had come back to our side earlier, we could watch over him.
Would he end up like this now?
I don’t think so.
True gold shines wherever it is. A fool will never shine wherever he is.
Do you think she heard what you said?
So what if she hears it? I’m not afraid of her.
It’s not about who’s afraid of who.
So what is it about?
It’s about stability and unity.
It’s about domestic peace.
The domestic peace you want...
...can only be achieved if we swallow insults in silence.
Your parents are badmouthing us out there.
What did they say?
They called us fools who can’t succeed in anything.
Did my Dad say that?
Your Mom said that and your Dad was nodding to it.
I was passing by and overheard their conversation.
Are you dumb? Why aren’t you saying anything?
I thought the Jiang family only looks down on me
but they despise you as well.
Why bother brushing your teeth or washing your face?
What are both of you doing in here?
We are brushing our teeth.
What time is it already? You’re still brushing your teeth?
See? This is the reward of living under another’s roof.
Stop it already! What do you mean by living under another’s roof?
This is my parents’ home. This is also my home.
Your home but not mine.
Do you think I wanted to stay here and suffer?
Come back here.
What are you looking for?
Pork.
Yes, I know.
We are selling pork here.
I mean, which part do you want?
I don’t know.
I want the best part.
All right.
-You want lean cuts, good pork, huh? -Yes.
This is a rump. These are all lean cuts.
Okay, I’ll take this.
How much would you like?
I’ll make a call and ask about it. Please hold on.
She’s obviously someone who doesn’t do any housework.
Hello, Mom. I’m at the market to buy some meat.
Why did you go to the market? Where is your mother-in-law?
It’s my mother-in-law’s 66th birthday.
The tradition says one must have meat on the 66th birthday
so I came to the market to buy some meat.
Are you her daughter? Do you have to buy her that?
She doesn’t have a daughter. I’m just posing as one to make up for her.
You are filial.
All right, don’t be jealous.
Just tell me how much should I buy.
How much? A cut of meat, of course.
How much is that?
Just as its name implies, a cut of meat is a cut of meat.
My old comrade, you are so full of jealousy.
Didn’t you tell me to be a virtuous and kind daughter-in-law?
I told you to be a daughter-in-law. I didn’t tell you to be a daughter.
Are you done nagging?
Just tell me how much a cut of meat is.
If you have money, buy a big cut. If you don’t, a small cut will do.
Fine. Just take it as if I didn’t make this call.
What’s wrong with her?
Excuse me.
This. A big chunk.
A big cut.
Hello?
Why don’t you just bring home a big chunk of rump?
It looks simple yet generous, your mother-in-law would love it.
You know I’m going to pick a rump? You do know a lot.
All right. I’ll argue with you no more. That’s it.
Disgusting!
Who?
Who’s disgusting?
Your beloved daughter.
How did she offend you again?
It’s her mother-in-law’s 66th birthday today.
She went to the market to buy meat.
She was saying the tradition says one must have meat on the 66th birthday.
You sound like you’re jealous.
Why’d I be jealous?
It’s just a cut of meat. How much would that cost?
It isn’t about the money.
What is it about then?
The problem is Yafei is treating her mother-in-law as her own mother, isn’t it?
Look at other people’s daughter-in-law.
And then look at our daughter-in-law.
Mind your words.
Correction fluid.
Mom, where is my correction fluid?
Why do you ask me if you can’t find it? Do I look like a thief?
It takes two to make a quarrel.
If you want a good daughter-in-law, you have to be a good mother-in-law, too.
How much better do I have to be?
I prepared three meals a day for them without taking their money.
What more do I have to do?
They are in trouble now, aren’t they?
We as parents should help them as much as we can.
It’s not like I don’t want to help them
but looking at how they behave now, don’t you feel bad helping them?
So what if you feel bad about it?
Are you going to starve them?
They’d be starving without us, but they are still so lazy.
I can’t even say a word about it? Just wait and see. You’ll suffer later.
We can talk about that later.
-Am I really that annoying? -Did anyone say that you’re a thief?
Do I need someone to tell me to my face? You’re deaf and you heard nothing.
You’re the only one who said you heard it.
-What are you doing? Don’t go in. -Don’t stop me. Let go of me.
Are you crazy? You can’t go.
I’ll stop them from fighting.
I can’t allow them to fight at home.
Even if you don’t feel embarrassed, I do.
THE TOP VIRTUE IS LIKE WATER GREAT VIRTUE CAN CARRY EVERYTHING
-You’re deaf and you heard-- -What are both of you fighting about?
Who’s the thief?
Grandma, I didn’t call Mom a thief.
She’s too sensitive.
From now on, watch our words so that your Mom doesn’t misunderstand.
Am I being sensitive?
If you’re not being sensitive, why are you calling yourself a thief?
Are you a thief?
If you want to stay here, behave yourselves.
Anyone who’s causing trouble can move out right away.
Mom, why’d you say that?
Did I say anything wrong?
We, as parents, have fulfilled our obligation by bringing you up.
We can help if you have difficulties but please be self-conscious and behave.
Are we not self-conscious? Did we not behave?
You sleep till the sun is riding high. Is that self-conscious?
Shouting in here earlier, is that what you called behaving?
We weren’t shouting at all.
You weren’t shouting? If that wasn’t, what else would you call it?
Xu Hong, I’m telling you. I don’t demand too much from you.
I have shown you enough respect.
In this family, you need to know your own position.
Don’t be self-abased or arrogant.
Watch your behavior and do your own thing.
I’ll not argue with you about what happened today.
If this happens again, you just wait and see.
Are you happy now? Do you feel better now?
Lower your voice. What are you crying about?
Stop crying. What are you crying about?
I can’t even cry? Why must I suffer and be bullied here?
We’ll just go back then. Both of us.
Go back? Where could we go? We sold the house.
We’ll stay at your Mom’s place.
Why would we stay at my Mom’s place? Why would my Mom support us?
My parents have been taking care of Yaya. Why would they support us too?
So, both of us...
should hurry up and get a job.
Didn’t they say they’d find a job for us? Where can we get a job?
We can’t just stay here and wait.
We should help out with the housework.
At least, we shouldn’t oversleep.
I won’t if you don’t do it too.
I feel awful.
I’m an adult but I’m still depending on my parents.
You’re incapable. You were laid off.
You’re starting it again. Why do you say that?
I’m warning you, Xu Hong. If you think I am incapable,
we'll get a divorce.
Do you have to do that?
Why bother about saying those useless words?
I’d say it even if it’s useless.
Look at how she was today.
She was trying to test me, showing off her temper to us.
If we let her go on like that, she'll push her luck further.
If that happens, we are going to suffer, you know.
I know.
It’s time to give them a lesson.
They are a bit outrageous indeed.
They are not only a bit outrageous, they are very outrageous.
Look at that Xu Hong. She is such a petty bourgeois.
She pretended to be scolding her child but her bluster was directed against me.
She’s bringing that marketplace culture into our home.
Right, my old woman, you are right.
Didn’t you stop me from teaching her a lesson?
I was afraid that you couldn't beat her and that you’re no match for her.
What makes you think I can’t?
You are the daughter of an eminent family.
I was afraid that you couldn't deal with that petty bourgeois.
And the result? What’s the result?
You are awesome.
You are awesome indeed.
I can’t believe that a noble woman can also turn into a shrew.
-Did I look like a shrew? -You were better than a shrew.
That petty bourgeois dare not say a thing.
Go to the devil!
If we followed your appeasement policy,
a few days later, she’d behave like a mother-in-law...
...while I’d be the daughter-in-law.
Who’s that?
Your in-law.
Isn’t she your in-law as well?
What brings her here?
She seems to have brought something for you.
It’s her birthday and not our birthday. Why’d she bring something here?
Just go and take a look. What are you bothering about?
Anybody home?
Nobody.
Can’t you at least answer me if you’re home?
Come. Take this.
What are you holding?
Yafei is such a silly and adorable daughter.
What is it with her?
It’s my birthday today, isn’t it?
She said she heard of the tradition that says...
...one must have meat bought by the daughter on the 66th birthday.
I have no idea where she went and bought a cut of meat for me.
This cut of meat weights 10 kilograms. How am I going to finish it?
There's more people in your family, so I’m giving you half.
She bought it especially for you. Why bother giving it to us?
Most of you just stay home and eat.
Unlike us, most of them just eat out due to business.
All right, Wang is waiting for me. I have to go now.
-Go. I won’t ask you to stay. -I’ll get going.
I’ll leave that to you.
By the way...
Happy birthday.
Thanks.
Disgusting!
Subtitle translation by Loretta Kok